When we are in our comfort zone, that is when we also become complacent and too comfortable. But that is also when our growth and development slows down and we don’t feel the need to strive and learn more or improve in our performance or knowledge.
Putting ourselves to the test or giving ourselves a challenge to overcome can very often allow us to discover something about ourselves that we’d otherwise never reveal if there wasn’t a need to breakthrough a situation or find a solution to something.
I thoroughly enjoy looking at things from different perspectives and appreciate the topsy turvy situations when they arise because I’m pretty darn sure that I’ll learn something along the way that I don’t know yet. With a two years old who has been down with a cold for two days, two older kids who are taking their common tests and a 6 year old who needs a lot of attention, I do feel a little off balance especially when it’s a a packed week from morning till night for me with teaching, prep work for talks, meetings, and admin.
Today I had a conversation with my oldest daughter who will be sitting for the PSLE this year. Although I’ve always encouraged all my kiddos to be diligent, disciplined and to work smart….. they often still face certain problems that textbooks and teachers cannot help them with. And what I shared with her about was that we’ll all face difficulties and problems at many junctures of our lives, but we need to figure out how to best deal with it and garner the support from the right sources when needed. There are skills and values that aren’t taught in school but right at home, and when we’re home with the kids, just being next to them isn’t enough.
I do try my utmost best as a working parent for my babies and I do feel that I have to put in even more time and effort while their father is overseas. But knowing that they appreciate what you share with them about and the advice that you give them like I did this afternoon, it encourages me to continue giving my best.
Topsy turvy can be challenging and fun!
Some days can get so crazy when I’m juggling between work, teaching, meetings, managing the household and meeting the needs of my four babies and a dog. It literally can get quite hair-raising sometimes but whenever I think about the kids, all that craziness just disperses.
No matter how busy I am during the weekdays I’d always make it a point to see the kids during the pockets of time that I have after they’re back from school and extra curricular activities. This means quite a fair bit of shuttling in my mommy-mobile and being on the road. And I’ve lost count how many times I just wished that we could teleport.
This morning as I was driving to work, I saw yet another accident on the road and as the ambulance and tow truck drove past me towards the accident site, I just couldn’t help but wonder who was involved in that accident and if those involved have little kids waiting for them back home.
I take good care of my wellbeing so that I can be there for my kiddos. But oh how I wish we didn’t have to risk our safety and waste time on commuting. So to all fellow working parents out there…. stay safe on the roads so we can continue to be here for our little ones.
What would be the toughest part of this near month-long holiday to see their dad in the USA? Apart from handling the kids alone while flying and transiting….it really was when we had to say goodbye to the man who took such good care of us these past few weeks and pampered us like we were princesses (and a queen).
From the moment I knew we were making this trip to visit their dad in the United States, I already started to worry about how I would manage the four kids alone. Yes a lot of prep work had to be done especially in enrolling the older girls to help with the baby and the luggages. And it’s really no joke having to collect our checked-in luggages upon arrival at LA, going through customs, finding our way to the domestic terminal from the international terminal in order to check-in these luggages again and then catching another domestic flight to Idaho. The trip back to Singapore is much of a hassle too but this is was all so worth it considering the memories and experiences we shared these past few weeks as a family.
The older kids got to revisit some nostalgic places like our old house, the parks I used to take them to, the animal shelter, the malls, the theme parks, nature reserves, etc. Yes they’ve forgotten much of the past because they were so much younger then, but that got me digging out many old pictures to share with them and we had so much fun reminiscing.
Standing in front of our old house where we used to live at.
When it came to the end of this holiday and parting ways with their dad at the airport…. my oldest girl tried to hold back her tears and Small asked me why we couldn’t just bring daddy home with us. Medium as usual was just cool as cucumber but she did tell me on the plane that she missed daddy already (Small said this 9 times throughout the flights). And Extra Small just kept me busy with her endless fountain of energy and screams from the moment we boarded till we arrived in Singapore. During the flight from LA to Seoul, I had to help her with her constipation (yes it was grotesque but successful) and I honestly feel like I’ve aged 10 years because of this trip back.
Would I do this again? Heck yeah 🙂 just to see the smiles on my girls’ faces, and Daddyman too of course.
I’ve lost count how many times the hubs and I have been to Las Vegas, but over the years since 2001 after we got married till now, we’ve travelled here numerous times as a couple, with two very young children, while I was pregnant with Number 3 and now with 4 kids. And each time the experience is a little different.
Timing pee stops is definitely something we have to do while on this sort of road trip 😂 and obviously managing our shopping because otherwise we would just go stark crazy and end up not having leg room left in the MPV (yes it’s happened before).
One thing I appreciate about #thatdadoffour is how he would make sure the kids have entertainment in the car during the long drives. Games, music, riddles…… Yes it’s way better than in-flight entertainment. Ha!
Visiting Vegas with babies does limit what we can do and the types of shows we can watch for sure. And it also means we often walk around with a sleeping child or in our current case….. sleeping children! So we end up having to carry kiddos while we go about town. Thank goodness for all that training.
Still….. there’s so much we’ve done. Visiting the Grand Canyon, taking the rides, catching the shows, taking in the sights and eating way too much.
I can only hope that our older kids will remember these moments and keep them dear to heart ❤️
On our last trip here to M&Ms World in 2011 and I was over 5 months pregnant with Number 3.
Back when they still had the lion’s habitat in MGM hotel.