Should You Let Your Girlfriend / Wife Go Club?

And so this morning, I woke up to this rather amusing article on my Facebook wall:  5 REASONS WHY SINGAPOREAN MALE SHOULD NOT LET HIS GIRLFRIEND TO COUNTDOWN WITH HER CLIQUE IN A CLUB THIS 2014

I’m rather confused by the title. Is the article implying that your partner is free to club all year long except for the countdown party? The reasons given were rather general and contradictory. If you say that clubs tend to be more crowded during countdown parties and the chances of getting taken advantage would be higher. I can totally understand where you are coming from. But from the reasons stated alone, it seems like the writer is against girls hitting the clubs at all.


Chuckling to myself, I thought about how my husband should be glad that I have long left my unglamorous clubbing days behind. Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against married women who still club. As long as you know what you are doing then it is fine and of course, like everything else, it should be done in moderation.

Here are the 5 reasons stated by the article and my thoughts on it. Continue reading

How I Prepared Financially To Be A Stay Home Mom


Note: I would like to emphasize that a stay home mom is not necessarily a tai-tai (太太 is a Chinese colloquial term for a wealthy married woman who does not work.) This only applies to the upper class.

I made that collage when I was still working and it reflected my feelings at that point of time. It soon dawned upon me that I wanted to stay at home to spend more quality time with my son. I had only 2-3 hours each day after work to spend with him and it wasn’t sufficient.

So I have been a stay home mom for about a year and some of you might be interested to know how did I come to such a decision? Well, after the 16 weeks maternity leave, I returned to work with a constant void in my soul. I found myself pinning for my son. There were also issues happening in the workplace which further fueled my desire to leave. I finally made the decision in June and wanted to quit without a job to try out the SAHM lifestyle. However, at the advice of my manager, I searched for another job before quitting.

I moved on to a new company but the work scope wasn’t what I had expected. I thought that this was the perfect opportunity to finally call it quits and stay home with my boy. And that was the best decision ever, I couldn’t be happier now.

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My Experience As Judge For Mrs Singapore 2014 Pageant (Prejudging)

I was invited to represent My Fat Pocket as one of the judges at the prejudging panel for Mrs Singapore and Classic Mrs Singapore 2014. This was a first for me and what an eye-opening experience it turned out to be.


Together with fellow MFP mummy blogger, the pretty Jessie, we made up part of the fifteen for the prejudging panel that would account for 50% of their total scorings. Jessie would also be one of the judges at the Finals that would be held on 10th May 2014.

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The Strength Of A Woman

For decades, women have been looked upon as the weaker sex, it is only in recent years did women gain the respect they deserve. With more and more women taking up roles in politics and climbing up the ranks in corporations which were once reserved for the men only. Though, in certain societies where strong values are still placed in tradition, women are still unfortunately an oppressed lot.

From dealing with monthly period pains, sexism to childbirth, being a woman is never easy. A woman plays multiple roles in her daily life, she is a wife to her husband, a mother to her children, a team player in her corporation, a daughter to her parents and parent in laws and companion to her friends. Other times she also doubles up as a counsellor, a nurse, a cook and/or a cleaner.

To me a woman’s strength is her ability to love unconditionally. And becoming a mother has made me realize what I am actually capable of. Being pregnant made me realize what women were capable of. No one told me about the various discomforts and pains a woman would have to go through during the process. I had to find it out the hard way but that was nothing compared to giving birth and then looking after this new life you have brought into the world.

So today is International Women’s Day where we celebrate the achievements of women all over the world. We salute those who had fought for women’s rights and equality. Let us also honor the women we know and be thankful for their involvement in our lives and making that difference.

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