I Watch My Son Get Shoved And Did Nothing

Today, I was sending my boy to school and we were a little early. So I’d encouraged him to play with his classmates while waiting for the school doors to open. It started out fine until Asher begin jumping about and accidentally hit another kid with his hand. That kid then exaggerated the hit further by pretending to fall down and cry. I was perhaps the only one who had witnessed the whole turn of events. Unfortunately for my boy, the other adults present, made up mostly of overprotective grandmothers, decided that he had intentionally hit that kid. The boy’s grandmother then started cooing and coaxing the kid (who is older than Asher) to stop crying while telling Asher that he can’t hit the him. I was upset because Asher did not hit with intent. It was an accident, I then clarified and got Asher to apologize for the accidental smack. But I was disgusted by how they were all reacting to whole situation.

You see, when Asher falls, we tell him to get up and that it’s ok. When another kid shoves him, I do nothing but watch him from a distance. I look upon in amusement as the other parent panics while trying to get his/her kid to share the toy which Asher has his eye on as well. Am I doing this because I am a lazy mother? Maybe you think that I do not care about my child.

As long as he is not facing an imminent danger (or causing another child to face any danger) and I am near enough to step in should the situation deteriorate then I think it is fine to let him figure out things on his own. I want Asher to be independent. I want him to learn to stand his own ground. Is he going to let people push him around or will he stand firm? I know for sure that if I were to run to his rescue for every tiny little issue, he is going to hate me for it in the future.

Sure, Asher is only 2, but I am not going to sugarcoat his childhood. He has to face that the world is unfair, sometimes you simply don’t get what you want in life. And for now, it could be a fancy toy or that seriously tempting ice cream cone that another kid is holding on to. He will learn that people will manipulate others or scenarios to turn things into their favor. Today, it could be a kid pretending to fall to gain sympathy and attention. In the future, it could be a colleague feigning helplessness to get him to do all the work while gaining credit from the boss.

Seriously, your child is no delicate, fragile, little flower. Stop treating them like they will get damaged at every hit or bump, shove or kick. I do not condone bullying but at this young tender age, kids are just being kids. I’m sure they harbor no ill intention, at least I know for sure that Asher did not intended to hurt anyone.

[Book Review + Giveaway!] Our Chinese Books Loot From Read With Me Mommy!

Asher has been crazy over this classic book, titled “We are going on a bear hunt”. We never fail to read it before bed and he gets excited acting out the scenes from the book. So I decided to search for the chinese version and mind you, it was pretty difficult trying to find this title locally. But I eventually found it!

image

Since Asher has shown some interest in mandarin, I wanted to expose him to the language as frequently as possible. And there’s no better way to do it than through our love for books and reading! Check out the books which we’d ordered, these titles (on the left row) are originally in English. He is familiar with the english version so it helps when I start him on the chinese version.

image

Continue reading

[Tutorial] Shark Feeding Box

It’s shark week on Discovery channel and there’s no better way to celebrate it with some shark related activities. There are lots online but I decided to go with this one by Toddler Approved. I did some modifications according to my preference and would like to share it with you :)

image

Continue reading

[June Holidays Special] Activities With Toddler

It is no simple task trying to keep a toddler captivated, since he started crawling at around 9 months old, Asher has always been more keen in exploring than sitting down to complete activities. They should put a warning on these toy packagings. I mean, they often show these happy babies expertly stacking rings. I bought him a similar toy too, expecting him to do the same but he never had much regard for the toy except to toss the rings around the house.

Soon, I learnt that toys weren’t enough. And that was when I started googling for activities to keep him occupied and stumbled upon all these pinterest-worthy activities online. “Sensory play” is a phrase that often popped up whenever I was searching for new activities. Sensory play refers to play that involves and stimulates the five senses; (the senses of touch, sight, smell, taste, and hearing), as this is how young children explores the world around them.

image

Continue reading

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...