A Shift In Perspective


Just months back, I was in such a low state that you could feel my negative vibes just miles away. It got so bad that there were occasions where I would just break down whenever I spoke to a close friend about the issues I was facing. This has never happened to me before! I guess there is a first time for everything. Fortunately, I am in a better state of mind now.

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However, looking back, things were pretty ugly then and a concerned friend warned me, that if I did not snap out of it, I would hit rock bottom. And should I hit rock bottom, it was going to be much more tougher to get out of that sinking hole. She advised that I should stop all the negativity and get out of the pit while I can. One of the first steps I had to take was to change my perspective. Continue reading

Day 1 As A Stay Home Mummy Again


Home-maker and stay home mother are just a better term for my current jobless status. It is officially Day 1 of my freedom and I am totally enjoying it. This could not have come at a better timing, with the Lunar new year just right round the corner, for once, I am starting to soak up the festive cheer.

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All About Asher’s Go Diego Go Theme Birthday Party & His Awesome Birthday Present!

I had been planning for his 2nd birthday even though it was not going to be a big affair like his first. And in a blink of an eye, it came and passed. Oh boy, how time flies! Just imagine 2 years ago, he was just a tiny wee little baby and now he is a grown up toddler with his own opinions.

We celebrated in advance on a weekend with family and close friends at our humble home. Since Go Diego Go was his favorite character of the moment, I made it the theme for his party.

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Toxic people are everywhere but you can do something about it

Recently, I had been down in the dumps for thankfully a short period only. After countless ranting (& crying) sessions with close friends and finally a chat with my sister who prayed for me, I was eventally enlightened.

The purpose of this blog entry is to share with those who might be going through the same issue. Some even on the brink of depression, I’ll be honest, I was sick of breaking down in private and nearly wanted to see a shrink.

It doesn’t matter if they are just jealous of you, wicked by nature or just downright delusional. These people are best out of your life for the sake of your mental, emotional and physical well-being. Often we are unable to distance ourselves from these toxic people as they could be your office co-workers, your neighbours or classmates etc. It would be absurb to quit a job, move house or switch schools in this scenerio.

Also, it’s always practical to note that toxic people are everywhere but you can do something about it. And this choice starts with you.

Initially, I was fueled by anger and rage, and I wanted so bad to get back at this person who had done something wrong but was too delusional to admit it. She even went round spreading rumours that I had backstabbed her. Carrying a baby also meant that I had gotten more emotional and irrational due to the hormonal changes.

However, as the wise saying goes “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” Revenge was not going to make me any happier. Why should I stoop to her immatured level and plot her downfall? I was getting weary with this battle that I felt like I was fighting alone.

Then, it seemed like God decided to impress upon me a blog entry which helped me tremandously. Wounded Warriors was the title of the post, and of course, this is a motivational entry that would help those who are fighting other kinds of battles on their own like illness or  perhaps, a bad financial debt.

The blog entry shared a verse from the bible: Exodus 14:14 says “The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.” It reminded me that I could turn to God and unload this burden within me and let him deal with it. I did not need to deal with the anger and hatred daily that was eating me away. I could stop with the cursing and swearing which only made me more angry.

I won’t say that I had forgiven this person but not focusing on her has defintely made me a much happier person. I can now channel the energy that once was wasted on her to other people and things which are more deserving of my attention.

Out of sight, out of mind would be the best solution but I cannot make her vanish for good. So I would just have to learn to live with it and mature along the process. :)

All work and no play makes Jill a dull girl

Lately, it has been a routine of work, eat, sleep and then all over again the next day. I have been so busy with my new pad that I even had to skip quite a number of beauty events.

And now, I’m getting really lethargic daily and I was just wondering what could I do to perk myself up?

So here’s a list of stuff I thought of randomly…

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