I have heard horror stories about how sex life after kids is almost non-existent especially when you have more than one. And if you are getting your sexy fix weekly, then you are considered one of the lucky ones because there are some couples who seem to manage by with monthly sex or even quarterly sex. While I understand that some couples are both fine with having lesser sex, it can be frustrating if there is a mismatch in libido.
Well, things do not have to be this way, as I believe that sex is a healthy and natural part of marriage. Sex isn’t just about getting physical but it is also about being intimate and connecting with your spouse.
Besides rushing through five minutes quickies while the children are watching their favourite cartoon on TV, why not make an effort to rekindle that romance by planning a trip sans the kids. Even just a simple staycation would be a good break from the children.
Before you start packing your luggages, here are the 5 secret items which I recommend bringing along on that trip to enhance your bedroom romp. To be honest, it was quite difficult limiting the list to just 5 items because by just simply browsing through Cherry Affairs, a locally-based online adult shop, I already see 16 different categories of toys and accessories for women alone.
Here are a couple of items which I had carted out and they arrived in a plain packaging because Cherry Affairs understands their customers’ needs for privacy. So no worries, not even the courier guy has the slightest clue as to what you had ordered.
There are a few options for delivery, you can opt for local delivery and choose from Registered mail by Ninja Van or same day delivery by EZ delivery. Self-collection is also available at POP Station or Oxley Biz Hub, Cherry Affairs also ships internationally and they also do discreet deliveries right to your hotel door.
#1 Sex Toy(s)
Sex toys are fun and inject more spice in the bedroom. If you are new to this, then you do not know how much you are missing out on. For starters, let me share with you about the OhMiBod – Lovelife Smile Clit Vibrator.
Do not be deceived by its size, this
little lethal monster is capable of powerfully quiet vibration and has 7 preset scalable pulsations. I was blown away by the gorgeous luxurious packaging and I think this would make a lovely present at Bachelorette parties or even a birthday gift for a special girlfriend.
The Smile Lovelife is a good toy to start out for beginners because it is small, discreet and easy to use. Unlike a dildo which may appear daunting, this cute vibrator concentrates on the clitorial region to bring you orgasm after orgasm with its heart-shaped nub. The heart-shaped controller on the back allows you to navigate in between the speed of pulsations with ease. The Smile Lovelife has been not only been a great companion on solo nights but also as an accompaniment for added pleasure while having sex with the man.
Wanting to take things a step further? Then you could venture on to check out the Rabbit Vibrators which hits all spots for ultimate pleasure. Rabbit vibrators come with a shaft for vaginal pleasuring and rabbit “ears” that stimulate the clitoris at the same time during insertion. The idea of using a rabbit vibrator is to achieve a powerful blend of vaginal and clitoral orgasms simultaneously. The rabbit vibrator is not only ideal for the single lady but also as a foreplay tool in the bedroom with a partner to intensify lovemaking.
This is a shout out to all mummies who are concerned about loose vaginal muscles after giving birth. You should check out the Ben Wa Balls which are essentially Kegel exercise tools to help strengthen the vaginal muscles.
To use Ben Wa balls:
- First you gently insert them into the vagina with lubricant if required.
- Next, you perform kegels to help hold them in and to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles to improve the elasticity of the vagina as well as improve bladder control.
Kegel exercises are easy to perform:
- Start by simply clenching your vagina around the balls like as though you are trying to pull them up further inside you.
- Clench as tightly as possible while holding on for as long as you can and then release.
- Simply repeat this exercise 10 – 15 times for each set.
Regular Kegel exercises help to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles to support the womb, the bladder, and the bowels. If the muscles are weak, these pelvic organs may lower into a woman’s vagina.
Image Credit: Universal Studios
Should these mysterious balls sound familiar to you then it is probably because you might have chanced upon them in the Fifty Shades of Grey novel and movie. And this brings me to the next topic, that yes besides Kegels, Ben Wa balls are also known for pleasuring. The idea is to insert the Ben Wa balls into the vagina and then sit on a rocking chair or swing for G-spot stimulation. Alternatively, if you are feeling adventurous like Anastasia Steele, who wore them internally to the masquerade ball, you could also wear yours while heading out to dinner with your spouse during your little vacation. You should however note that Anastasia felt aroused and enjoyed moments of pleasure each time she did seemingly innocent actions such as laughing, coughing or even crossing her legs. So do you think that you are game enough? 😉
#2 Sexy Lingerie
No holiday escapade is complete without sexy lingerie to tease your spouse and Cherry Affairs carries a wide range of Lingerie and Chemises. If role-playing is something the both of you take pleasure in, then you must check out the Costume section.
Do not miss out on this interesting section for Panties Vibrators! Shown in the photo below is the Hustler – Crotchless Vibrating Panties With Pleasure Beads. These vibrating panties feature high quality stimulating bead that increase sensual pleasure in a unique and fully discreet way. If you do not want to use it with the vibrator, you could just remove it and wear the thong on its own. I am sure your man would not be able to resist you in this seductive piece and its crotchless design makes it convenient for getting intimate in. I would strongly recommend getting a Brazilian wax to compliment these crotchless panties and give your spouse a surprise treat.
For the Fifty Shades of Grey fans, you would be delighted to know that Cherry Affairs also carries a range of remote controlled vibrating panties. These panties come with a quiet vibrating bullet tucked inside the panties that can managed by an external remote controller. Let your spouse unleash his inner Christian Grey as he controls your orgasms discreetly in the elevator or even across the table during a meal together.
#3 Sex Game
The Sex Games section has more than 60 different types of adult games which you could play with your partner to inject some fun and spice things up in the bedroom. One of the games shown here would be the bestselling adult card game; Nookii, where there are three tiers of intensity on the playing cards that invite a lingering exploration of one another’s bodies and builds up anticipation as you move up the levels. Go from the ‘Mmm’ cards’ gentle warm-up based around touching and teasing, to the ‘Ooh’ cards’ mini role-play scenarios, to the ‘Aah’ cards for a hot-blooded finale.
The rules of the game are simple with each action to completed within the time limit, determined by the number you roll on the dice in minutes. Included in the set is a silky scarf that acts as a blindfold and tie and tease accessory during several of your titillating tasks.
This is an example of the ‘Mmm’ card, read out the instructions to your partner and let the teasing begin.
I thought that accessories would required a section of their own because while they are accompanying props to your sexy lingerie and costumes. Not many people remember to bring them along on their vacation. Anyway, just look at what I have found in the Bondage & Fetish category, which is not just all about whips and restraints.
You probably would have guessed that I am now deeply inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey, and the Rianne S – Masque II Brigitte Mask is an essential accessory to replicate that scene in Grey’s childhood bedroom.
And guess what would go well with that mask? Unleash the inner sexual empowered diva within and look chic with these gorgeous classy looking cuffs. Who knows? You might discover that you and your spouse would be ready to explore soft bondage after experimenting with these accessories.
#5 Toy Cleaner
I know most toys can be cleaned with mild soap and water but it is a whole lot more convenient to just use something which is specifically designed for cleaning it.
This is the Nexus – Wash Antibacterial Toy Cleaner and it is really simple to use because it comes in a spray bottle. So to clean your toys, you just need to simply spray the Nexus Wash Antibacterial Toy Cleaner onto your sex toys and wipe off with a dry cloth. It is fragrance free and is suitable for sensitive skin too. Cherry Affairs has a variety of other Toy Cleaners too, so you can always find one which suits your needs on their website.
Now that you have your secret items all packed, it is time to select a location to put these tools to good use. When it comes to planning the ideal getaway location, try to pick somewhere which is more suitable for couples instead of families. Since you are leaving your little rascals back home, the last thing you would need is being reminded of them. For me, the Maldives brings back memories because it was also the island where we had our honeymoon at.
Other places to consider would be Ubud for its tranquil surrounding and privacy or Koh Samui for its stunning beaches. Should budget or insufficient vacation days be an issue then you could opt for a quiet retreat within the city. Singapore has no lack of hotels which would make the perfect staycation over the weekend. Choose from luxurious hotels in Sentosa island or romantic boutique hotels such as The Scarlet Hotel, which provides the perfect setting for an intimate and passionate night.
Image credit: ScarletHotel.com
So what are you waiting for? Start booking those tickets and hotel, and surprise your spouse. Do not forget these 5 sexy, secret items too! Use the promo code “CHARLOTTECHERRY” to get 8% off all orders, and a free packet of lube when order is $100 and above (while stocks last).