Swimming in fire;

Before everything went downhill, 让自己忙碌证明还活着 


Nexcare Ambassador @ Teenage Mag’s Valentine’s Day Event


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Basically, we just approached people to do our survey and then gave them a free sample. So much for being an ambassador.

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But well, at least I got a free gift set with all their products to try~

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I tend to spend money at work, stupid right. But Ya Kun’s Green tea freeze drink is pretty good!

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And this is the selfie I took before going to work, which I am using as my avatar and I love it because it has such a relaxed look and well, prolly would be how I look like if I worked in A&F but my red hair they can’t accept so wtv.

Modern Beauty salon Promoter

So, Nexcare was from 13th-16th 
and I worked for Modern Beauty from 17th to 21st. 

Biggest mistake of my life to agree to work,
I hated the sales job so much. 

Promoting facials?
Selling people things they don’t need?
Lying to people?
I don’t know, not my thing. 

Wanted to quit within the first two hours, 
because it was agonizing and time passed so slowly and the job sucked ttm,
Managed to get a mid-week break tho.

My agent lied to me, 
by saying she applied for my staff pass so I can’t back out. 
what a bitch. 
There was no such pass.

Also, she made the job scope sound very vague 
and so I didn’t know it was to sell facials urgh.

Not gonna work for her anymore once all my current assignments are done.


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I tried to cheer myself up at work with a good cup of mocha.

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Her boobs were so badly photoshopped, I feel so bad for her. And the image of the co is like whattttttt

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Dinner on the second day of work, Saizeriya’s food looks pathetic eh.

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The famous fish soup from Hup Lee Eatery in The Arcade, the fried fish is not dry so it’s superb. :>

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Met a customer to sell off my preloved clothing and she wrapped her money in this really cute packaging; I’m now using it to hold my Ez-link card!

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On the mid-week break, I went for my Clinique training to learn about the new EBEL. It’s a superb product which activates your skin’s natural ability to regenerate moisture! Available in two variants for dry and oily skins respectively, so go down to any Clinique counter to try! (Ps, with every purchase, there will be a FREE gift set worth $30!)

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That night, had dinner with my babe Kim and a friend whom I haven’t talked to in forever.

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Had dinner at the Big O Restaurant cause we bought coupons for it; the mushroom soup was ok but needs to be heated more.

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Baby ribs :>

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Tell you my photo edits iz good one.

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The best part of working for events, is meeting new people; these girls made work survivable.

“Burning in water, drowning in flames”

I feel like a zombie on life support, 
a skeleton with a beating heart, 
and eyes that cry 
but there’s nothing left of me.

I feel horrible.
I messed up my life again.
Do I know how to even live my life?

No, I clearly don’t.

They always say, “Once bitten, twice shy”
and if you make the same “mistake” over and over,
it’s no longer a mistake,
it’s a choice.
A fucking stupid choice.

People tell me, 
you’re just young,
you don’t know how to deal with such situations well enough yet,
but now you learn and you know.

Really?
I had to get hurt this way to learn?
Now I see human touch and I’m afraid.
And I promised myself that I won’t hug guys anymore.
And if anyone doesn’t respect that, 
then fuck off. 

Woke up on Friday feeling suicidal;
and I still had to work.
Was trying so hard not to cry and stuff


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The glue that kept my insides together.
Friday night, I only got home at 3am.
Because I needed to be a friend to someone,
despite myself crumbling into bits.

I know I do also have people who care for me,
but what I need now, 
is just to be left alone. 

I. Need. To. Be. Locked. In.


Clinique Angel

Started work for Clinique on the 22nd, 
despite having little sleep the night before.
Was hoping that Clinique work would be better but meh.

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My before and after makeup transformation!

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Lo and Behold, the Even Better Essence Lotion!

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My partner and I for the next 7 weekends, hwaiting!~

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My ponytail looks horrible from the front but lovely from the side; shall I talk to you like this?
It really hurt to be walking around in 4 inch heels to give out flyers
but I met up with my god bro and pampered myself with

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TIM HO WAN’S BUNS ARE THE BEST
Work has been screwing up my lunch times thou, 
ate lunch at 4ish
and immediately left house for dinner at 5.30

Dinner was fish head steamboat at Whampoa!
(Have to wait for at least 1 hour)


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How can you go to a hawker and not have sugarcane?
Thought it was okayy only la, idk maybe cause I didn’t have the mood to eat.

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His joy and innocence, I envy.

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The lights were mesmerizing

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On sunday, I decided to feature a new product from Clinique, which is the Anti-blemish corrector concealer! It helps to not only conceal, but also fix your blemishes~

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Had the cheesy pasta shrimp snacker for lunch and the new revised fries are oomph so good
For dinner, we went to Nihon Mura; 
because well we had vouchers for 19 free plates

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JUZ EAT

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Oh no what have I done?

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Never mind, happy that I conquered muahahah

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We also had some ramen

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Le sissy and the mum

When we got home, 
found out that my mum’s Newcastle convocation and my SAT test are like on the 2nd of May and 3rd of May respectively.
We were supposed to all go holiday together

then my mum got upset that I didn’t rmbr the date
and I got upset with myself cause I failed as a daughter.

I fail at being myself
and at life in general right?

“En toute chose il faut considérer la fin.”

Look before you leap, think before you act.

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SEA Games 2015 Launch Party

“Give me an S – S
Give me an I – I
Give me a N-G-A-P-O-R-E!” *inserts shrilly voice*

Would you cheer for Singapore?
I believe many Singaporeans would still watch our SG athletes during international sporting events 
and cheer them on
because we still do feel the warm community spirit when we come together. 
(despite the gazillion complains we make about our island, I get it, I really do.)

In this post, I will be recapping about my night at the SEA Games 2015 Launch Party!
It was a blast :>

Here you can see the stage, the nearby surroundings of Gardens by the Bay and the Moshpit area(the lil grass patch)!

We got there a lil late and the party was already going on,
really happening
& heartening to see Singaporeans showing their support for the event by being dressed in red!
I always love soaking up the energy and love in the atmosphere at these events.
Fret not, I wasn’t a spoilsport and threw on my red top as well!

The line up for the evening was really exciting,
I’d do a pictorial recount alright?
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We caught Chen Wei Lian’s performance which was in line with promoting for the 2014 ASEAN Paralympics as well. I believe his story encourages many people to live life to the fullest despite the difficulties we face.
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This is Charlie Lim, and I swear his vocals are amazing. Something you’d fall in love with while reading at a cafe, or play before bed :>
Because I personally fell in love with him,
I’m sharing his music with you alright?
Check out his site here: http://charlielim.net/

Also, he’s just such a cutie, like a shy guy behind his specs sending love through the notes that fall off his guitar
So stalk him on insta here as well! @wherewascharlie
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Here you see Daphne Khoo, singing the theme song of the SEA Games and ASEAN Paralympics; Greatest
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The Minister gives his encouraging speech~
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Mascot Nila welcomes everyone, isn’t it cute???
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*MUACKS*
To officially launch the party, they got cyclists to cycle hard to create enough kinetic energy to light up the launching mechanism!
You can see the ball changing colours as they cycle! Pretty cool stuff
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The party is on!
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The Great Spy Experiment rockin’ the stage
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So thankful to get a picture backstage :>
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While walking around, bumped into the beautiful Eunice Anabel!
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Backstage with Charlie, forgive my messy hair; was too happy hehe
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With John Merlina and his band before their set!
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Such a blur photo but this is DJ Aldrin and I swear his beats are awesome, can’t wait to catch him at Velvet on the 8th of March!
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My clan mate and I, haven’t clubbed with you before but I know you’d make a good dance partner.
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Met two beautiful girls and made friends!
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A selfie group shot before parting; follow them on insta, @kimberleyyongofficial @fredabek @bizarreunicorns
With that, 
I’m thankful for the opportunity to get Mosh pit tickets and even backstage passes to meet the celebrities!
Also, I’m more than happy to meet new people and make new friends.

With that, I will cheer Singapore on for the Games!
GO BAG SOME MEDALS<3

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The things and people that get me by,

*inserts a weak hey*
I am exhausted from work, such a workaholic me. 
Today is my last day as Nexcare Ambassador at the Teenage Magazine Valentine’s day event!
(finally, I mean it was quite a torture going around and asking people to help with surveys)

Why did I even agree to work next week from Monday(tmr) to Friday as well?!
I make stupid decisions urgh. 
It’s only gonna pay me $8.50/hr sigh and must stand for 8 hours!!!

Just did the dishes cause I need to train to be more independent;
in case I really do end up studying overseas. 

I have so much to recap so let’s go!


13/14/14

Forgot to share this buy with you guys in my previous town post,
so #throwbacktothe12th
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I don’t know if you can see, but I love my new doggie studs; its golden and with a black stripe so I can pair it with everything! From Func Deko at FEP
Woke up on a beautiful Wednesday morning, 
esp when I opened my fb messages inbox!

Got a note from a schoolmate asking me to be a social influencer for the SEA Games 2015!
I don’t know why he would even consider me or remember me or think that I’m a good candidate;
but I was so glad! (and excited for the launch party as well; details below!)

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When opportunities come your way, you grab them tight. I cancelled work for the party :>
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Looks exciting right!!
So after some spazzing; 
I kept the day free and went to visit my aunt in the late afternoon.
She was in the hospital and just made it through a major op!
So, she removed her uterus which had lots of tumours :/
I’m so glad she’s better now!

EVERYONE, PLEASE PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH
Sleep well, 
eat healthy foods, 
smile a lot alright?

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Got her some pretty lilies from the marketplace to brighten up her room!
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Details for the day, don’t my nails look pretty?
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Took faceless OOTDs as well that night; check out my pretty purple walls and floral curtain and my sleep buddy :>

The people who know me and love me; my favs

We meet so much less, ever since school stopped for us.
But our love is still strong.
My clique, what can I say?
I am a highly  misunderstood creature but yet they see me, and they know me. 
Most importantly they love me. 
We talked about school, catched up with each other.

Lunch was at Delifrance (Jurong Point); which was HIGHLY DISAPPOINTING.
If there’s one thing I hate, I hate being let down by food.

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How do you call this a bread bowl and a chef recommendation at that? The soup was more like mushroom cream and it wasn’t really temperature hot :/
Thankfully though, 
my babe treated us to Starbucks!
So it made up for the crappy lunch~
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Some of my friends tell me, I drink Starbucks too often and that they should pay me for helping them advertise HAHHA
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Snuck this photo up on them TEEHEE, presenting my IT geek & transport directions guru JJ and my Malay bestie Hana^^
She has the loveliest smile.

I also collected my free Laneige BB cushion sample!
Great for the sunny days cause it has SPF 50+ to protect your skin;
corrects the tone of your skin 
and is also sweat-proof!
Someone say perf for SG!

Eh, how to get? I also want leh

HAHAHAH, no fret.
Amanda always shares the good stuff with you

1) Hop on to http://www.clozette.co/
Clozette has tons of other contests where you can win more stuff; get outfit inspirations and makeup tips!

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The page should look like this!
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Click the sign up button
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Fill up your particulars & check your email!~
Be quick alright!
Cause from past working experiences, these popular samples run out fast!

Valentines; 元宵节;international friendship day

The day meant fairly little;
but I did take the chance to appreciate my loved ones. 
We should always remember to do so, because people need to be reminded that someone loves them yknow?

Treated myself to a good lunch with a friend at JEM :>

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Our spread at Shin-Kushiya! The skewers were really good
Sigh but well, after eating well; 
I WENT TO WORK ON VALENTINES YAY ME 

Decided to go back for dinner because my momsie misses me and because they were waiting for me to have 汤圆 together
Our family strongly believes that 
“A family that eats together, stays together”

To show my love for my fam; 
I brought back a box of Dunkin’s!

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I don’t like the chocolate almond one :/
Didn’t feel like ending off the night just like that.
SO, 
I made my friend meet up with me to have a drink HAHHA.
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This is how retarded I look with two bottles of Hoegaarden in my bag
We drove to CCK park and talked;
played with swings and the playground in general.
IT WAS SO FUN;
INNOCENT CHILDHOOD FUN I LOVED IT.

We left for supper around 3am
cause he was craving for some Boon Lay Power Nasi Lemak
(who the hell eats rice so late?!)
But well we shared this sinful plate of nomz.


Virgin Duxton road visit

Who doesn’t love the concept of shophouses?
Quaint, 
pretty,
every nook of the street is a place you can take an OOTD.
Most importantly, 
there’s always food. 

Met up with a clan girl, Kim (as we were going to head to the SEA Games Launch party together!)

We dropped by Group Therapy cafe for a bit, 
but well they were too crowded to host us. 

We decided to explore the stretch a bit,
and stumbled upon, 
wait for it, 
A BOOKSTORE.

Even the name of the place is really hipster, called Littered with Books.
I swear it’s like entering a whole new world. 
Their books are pretty updated and their bookshelves are decorated with cute lil’ notes and recommendations.

CAN’T WAIT TO GET MY HANDS ON A BOOK FROM THERE SOON

If you’re wondering why I didn’t get a book there and then,
it’s cause I already have a read on hand!
I know I’m slow, but it’s my first Mitch Albom book. 

Being a strong believer of treasuring time;
I wanted to read this book strengthen my belief. 
I felt like I needed a reminder, to not just count the minutes but to relish every second. 

A wise 18 year old once said, 
“This life matters only because our time here is finite.”
You know your time here will run out, 
so be grateful for every minute and make it count.
Use it to make yourself and the people around you happy. 
Live such that you can tell yourself, you lived to the fullest and the most abundantly.

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Here’s my Feb read and also my collection of watches :> I’d feel so empty without a watch on my wrist
Okay, enough sidetracking.

We ventured further and stumbled upon Department of Caffeine!
It is a highly raved cafe of recent times
and my dear was craving for coffee
so we decided to have a try!

They were full too; but we were put on waiting list and then called up when our table was ready (:
Great service!

We got iced coffees, which didn’t look so good on cam
BUT IT WAS SWELTERING OUT THERE SO DON’T BLAME ME ALRIGHT

Doesn’t the food look so orgasmic?!

Pancakes with blueberry mix and Churros with chocolate; we indulged in our sweet tooth wants :>

How could we have left Duxton. 
without OOTDs taken? 

My girl stood on the road and put her life on the line for these;
so you better say they are pretty!

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In my red velvet top from TEM; Tartan pleather skirt and Rubi Jelly heels
With that, we whizzed to Gardens by the Bay for the Launch party
(I’d make a new post for that one)

In the mean time, 
let me go to bed.

I hope you like the changes I did to my blog!

“All a woman actually wants is to feel special.” 
― Matt DunnThe Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook

(But don’t wait for someone to tell you that,
tell yourself those words everyday.)

:>

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Living the life of a Tai Tai

Hahahah hey there, 

guess the title says it all.

This post is gonna be about:
My manicure & pedicure sesh at The Professionails
Costa Coffee
Dean and Deluca
Saveur 
& some random rants.


The Professionails

Started my day with an appointment with The Professionails;

bought a Groupon voucher for two sesssions of Classic Mani and Pedi which includes a foot scrub!

So this is my second session with them!


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My nails were so fugly before the manicure, god.

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I really love the interior of the shop; furry purple carpet and that pretty wallpaper. // While she works on my feet.

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Just a random selfie to kill the boredom

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Check out their wide display of nail polishes!

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I had a really hard time choosing, (not because I’m an indecisive girl but well that may be part of the reason). // In the end, I chose a deep glossy purple for my toes and the silver foil colour for my fingernails!
After an hour;
VOILA!

(Btw, I topped up $2 for fast dry and it really helps. So do ask your manicurist if they have these fast dry drops if you’re doing a classic manicure like me!)


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I totally love this colour because it looks like foil!
Once you start on manicures, you just can’t stop?
Cause pretty nails would be another reason for your smile.

Check out The Professionails at Midpoint Orchard (:


After I did my nails, 
I WAS STARVING. 

My appt was at 12.30 and it ended at 1.30ish.
I only had breakfast so my stomach was so empty.
I didn’t know what to eat so I decided to check out Costa Coffee for a bite.

Found this uh-mazing plate of yumminess


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Ham, mushroom and cheese BAP; it’s like crispy and the cheese melts in your mouth and I really like mushrooms and it goes really well with the ham. *Spazz*
You’re prolly going like,
oh-em-gee girl, cheese? So fattening

Okay yeah I know, but it tastes good so stop it already hahahaha.

ORDER THIS WHEN YOU GO TO COSTA COFFEE THE NEXT TIME, I SWEAR YOU WON’T REGRET.

// Side story: As I was walking towards Costa Coffee, this guy came up to me and talked to me. 
He asked for my number and I nicely rejected him and his offer of friendship.
This is the second time that a guy has come up to me at 313 Somerset to ask for my number;
(Not trying to boast)
but has it now become a new girls’ hunting spot?

But yeah so after he got a “No” from me, 
he lingered on and tried to “prey” on another girl.
Although I don’t know if he was eventually successful but 
One, you can’t blame a man for trying; 
two, maybe he needs a date for Valentines
three, he desperately needs to satisfy some urges
four, wants to relieve some boredom.

But in any case, I don’t wish to find out which reason. (maybe all? HAHA)


No fate with A&F

After I finished up my food, 
I dropped by A&F.
I’ve went for an interview to work there previously and they said my hair’s too red so I’d need to reshoot my photo when it looks more natural.
I decided to go back and try again. 
But they still find it too red. 

I’m so reluctant to dye it dark again because I really love the current colour
(as seen below).

So I guess I’m gonna give up the job till sometime in future?

Dean and Deluca

Met up with my babe Kim and we went to grab coffee!

Originally, she wanted to check out Black Coffee Dessert Bar at Triple One Somerset
BUT IT’S CLOSED DOWN
AND THEIR WEBSITE IS NOT UPDATED.

SO I REPEAT, BLACK COFFEE DESSERT BAR IS NO LONGER AT TRIPLE ONE SOMERSET.

We were kinda disappointed, so we searched for an alternative and settled for Dean and Deluca.
Haven’t tried Dean and Deluca before so I was pretty excited.


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Featuring the Marble Latte; has white chocolate and milk chocolate in it, with a shot of coffee! Really good.

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We also tried an Earl Grey Blueberry Muffin which wasn’t too sweet (good for the older generations or those who don’t have a sweet tooth?) and Kim got a cup of Green Tea Latte, which is milkier and has more green tea powder than the Starbucks version.

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The purpose of this shot was to show off my nails, heheh. // Pardon the awkward hand handling of the cup.

We talked a lot, 
sharing bits of information about ourselves, 
voiced opinions and talked about love & relationships. 

We also shopped around abit but well, didn’t end up buying anything.

SECOND FOOD DISAPPOINTMENT OF THE DAY: 
Wanted to try out The Sushi Bar at FEP but the queue was so long!!

Thank god Saveur came to the rescue!

Saveur has been rather raved, because it serves good and cheap French food!


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Love the cute fashionable duck on their menu // Here’s a pick up line; “What’s on the menu today? Me-n-u”

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Kim got the Pasta appetiser ($4.90) and I order the Duck Confit ($12.90)
I really like the dish because the duck skin is crispy but the meat is tender and just right.
Love the mushrooms and the mash potato;
the oranges also added and interesting twist to the taste of the dish,

We ended the meal with Earl Grey Creme Brulee;
NOTE THAT FLAVOURS VARY SO YOU’VE GOTTA CHECK THE FLAVOUR OF THE DAY WITH THE STAFF!


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It may not seem much here, but I swear it’s damn good. The taste of the Earl Grey mixed with the sweet sugar top and the sourness of the raspberries; I think I went to heaven and back a few times.

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My pretty darling, thank you for the day! I don’t have many girlfriends cause I don’t always click well with them, but I think we hit off just fine. Can’t wait to see you again!

Gosh I’m so tired rn. 

Last night I had a really bad dream;
of some monsters and that I was trapped in this hotel and running in circles. 

Maybe I was too stressed dealing with my friends’ relationship dramas.
Everyone’s so unhappy yknow?
But I’m thankful that I have other friends whom I can lean on and unload to. 
Without them, I think I’d have crumbled. 

Some reminders I got yesterday: 

1) LIVE EVERYDAY LIKE IT’S YOUR LAST; LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST.
Honestly, we don’t know if there’s an afterlife. 
What if this is your one and only life?
Okay, even if you believe in an afterlife, there’s no harm seizing the day now right?

I say, chase your passions, 
do what makes you happy yknow?
Don’t live life with regrets. 
Live for yourself and not for anyone else. 
Which brings me to my next point,

2) LEARN TO IGNORE OTHER’S OPINIONS OF YOU
Let’s face it, 
people are always gonna talk and comment about you.
It’s their tongue and we can’t stop them.
But we can control and deal with whatever they say. 
Don’t get affected and you win. 
It’s not easy, I know. 
But try. 
I think you’d be a lot happier living life like that(:


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Here’s me signing off with my classic smile, xoxo!
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Frustrations about love

I’m getting bad again.
I can’t stop overthinking. 
These thoughts keep haunting me and replaying in my mind. 
There is simply no peace in my soul and my mind. 

I’m frustrated, because I don’t get love at all.

And I’ve had enough. 
I really need to get it out of my system. 

Recently, I have new thoughts or rather, fears towards love. 
One person has been constantly trying to reassure me and give me faith to believe and me patient, 
& for that I’m thankful that you’re my friend 
and you’re here with me.

But still, I can’t be fully convinced. 


The love story that gives me hope,

In sometime March last year, 
my cousin got into a motorcycle accident back in JB. 
He flew off his bike, and his helmet flew off as well; which meant he suffered serious head injury.

He had to undergo three ops, 
of which I believe made him lose some brain matter.
He forgot some things, even his age; thinking he’s 19 when he’s 26.
He was lively and talkative, but now has speech difficulties.
 His limbs have less strength now too. 

Although he is now much better, it was a difficult time for him and his family. 
& he wouldn’t have made it through without the love and care from his girlfriend. 
She stuck by him for 6 years and even after the accident,
She still stood by him.
“What are words if you really don’t mean them when you say them” right?

She quit her job just to be his 24 hour guardian. 
She put on a lot more weight during this time but yet she’s so beautiful.
The way she looks at him, cares for him, knows everything about him,
it’s the most amazing thing. 
For the first time in my life, 
I could believe that you CAN find someone  who loves you more than your parents. 


The one

To date, 
I struggle with this theory. 
Is there really the one? 
OR are there many “the one’s?

Let’s assume, 
there is the one for everyone. 
Then how would you know?

Base it on feelings?
Let’s face it. 
FEELINGS CHANGE. (Today I feel happy tomorrow I feel sad and angry and this and that)
It’s got to be more than that, don’t you think?

My third relationship, 
was the one I gave the most. 
Ever since then, I’ve felt like I don’t know how to love anymore. 
I have a lot to give, but I don’t know how. 

And then people come along, 
saying they “like” or “love” me
but I don’t register their actions as love at all. 

They confuse me, 
as to what love really is. 
How do we accept the love we think we deserve?
When I don’t think anyone knows love at all?

The story,that made me struggle more with the concept of finding “the one”.

My friend shared with me that he was with his ex for 4 years.
And he did consider marrying her.
He had parental consent and at that point in time, 
he was considering to sign on and so he would have a stable income.
But he eventually did not sign on, so I guess the question wasn’t popped as well.

After entering the U, they kinda drifted apart.
With their relationship worsening due to the lack of communication,
they eventually
broke. up. 

From someone you thought you’d marry, to someone you once knew
How can I accept that and just move on?
Like okay, good for you that you found out you wouldn’t work out before you married,
But aren’t you scared?
How would you know if the next girl you date will really really be the one you want to marry?
I feel scared for you.

But well, I know you guys will tell me;
if you made a mistake,
you can file for a divorce.
As of now, I’m not pro-divorce because I’ve seen how much it affects the kids.
I don’t think the children should suffer from our mistakes.
That is the most fucking selfish thing you can do. 

So yeah I rather be scared of not being able to choose the right one, 
than tell myself there’s always a way out.


This era

I’ve heard this excuse twice
and I’ve had enough.

What age already? It’s the 21st century already”

To that I say a big “Fuck you”

WE ARE THE PEOPLE OF THIS ERA, WE MAKE THE ERA, WE DECIDE HOW THE ERA SHOULD BE.
I know, in these times, people are more open about physical things, about sex. 

Sure, go ahead and make out with that girl in the club. 
But if you meet someone you’re really interested in, 
do you treat her the same?
Do you try to touch her and get to her and say ” I guess cause I really like you?”

NO YOU DON’T.
YOU SHOW HER RESPECT
YOU SHOW HER THAT YOU’RE SERIOUS
THAT YOU’RE NOT JUST PLAYING WITH HER OR AFTER HER BODY OR JUST IN FOR SOME FUN
You take time to actually know her and not mix everything up.

Just cause the gazillion other people out there
take off their clothes 
kiss each other and call that love
DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD DO THE SAME.

If you’re open about physical acts to the girls at the club and treat the girl you really like the same way,
HOW IS SHE SUPPOSED TO FEEL DIFFERENT.
How can she know that you want to know her for who she really is?
How can she know that you look at her and think she’s beautiful because of her soul and not whatever’s on the outside?
How can she know that you love her?

Do you guys hear what I’m saying?
Even as a girl, 
when I meet a guy I’m interested in, 
I keep my physical distance.
Why would you want to complicate things?
Or cloud your vision about your feelings towards the person?
What if you end up being together just cause you guys made out and stuff?
What’s the point of the relationship then?
Don’t tell me there’s love cause there is none. 

Basic respect people, for yourselves and for her.
Respect the relationship you two share. 

Can more people make love and less people have sex?
Can you stop complicating love?

Why can’t we be old school again?
Send love letters,
make mixtapes, 
bake, 
sing love songs, 
take walks in the park,
spazz across the phone to each other,
dance on the streets

Maybe I was born in the wrong time. 


 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

It’s been a while since I’ve been to church.
And maybe that’s partly the reason why cannot feel love in my heart and I cannot understand it. 
But this definition of love, is one I would always go back to. 

Love is patient
Love waits.
It does not hurry and rush into “relationship” status
Because if it’s your love, then it’s meant to stay. 
I’m not saying you take forever to make your intentions known.
But I think if someone can give up on you so easily, it’s not really love is it?

Love is kind
I think if someone loves you, and even though you made a mistake, they wouldn’t make you feel worthless.
They would sit down with you, talk about it and resolve the issue.
Not make you feel like shit and not hold it against you. 
They would be kind in their words because they know words have power and they wouldn’t want to hurt you unnecessarily because that means hurting themselves too. 
If you are in a abusive relationship, whether verbal or physical;
please leave.
Do not put up with it any longer,
don’t swallow your tears, pride and ego anymore. 
It’s not worth it because it’s not love.


I’d like to end by saying, 
be careful of how you make the girl feel.
But before that, I think you need to examine your intentions towards her, 
and tailor your actions accordingly. (Same for girls honestly)

How do you want her to register you as,
a fling?
a potential?
a friend? 

I will not go into the “no status”es cause that’s complicated
but if that’s what both of you want then yay okay everyone’s happy.

Valentine’s day is around the corner;
and I really hope the couples are happy.
As for us singles, I guess we need to keep the faith.


UPDATES 

If you’re concerned and curious about me, 
I have a few updates for you about my life I guess?

1) Check out my lookbook tab above
I’d be updating as and when I can.
As for now,
it’s mostly my CNY ootds.
I need someone to help me take my OOTDs more often.

2) I’m done with internship/poly
HURRAY HURRRAY FREEDOM

For now, I’m  taking some part time event jobs
Like being Nexcare ambassador at the Teenage Magazine event at Bugis Junction over the next couple of days.

I also need to settle uni applications :/

I wanna do up my faceless fashion blog as well ASAP.

I’ve been diligent in clearing my driving stuff as well!
Just passed my Basic Theory Evaluation and BTT is on 31st March
Will now go for final theory lessons ^^

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Soon, this shall be the driver’s seat!
with love, xoxo
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