Planning your own wedding like I did mine – Part 2

Read about Part1 here :http://blog.myfatpocket.com/alethea/2017/08/27/planning-your-own-wedding-like-i-did-mine/

Now I’m going delve deeper into the nitty gritty and small details on wedding planning which I hope will benefit everyone once again.

Like I said in my earlier post the first 2 things were to work out your guest list and research on venues that fit in your budget.DSC_1246

The plan
Pertaining to the guest list and all the information such as your budgeting and time line, its good to have it on dropbox or googledocuments or some sort of shared drive where you and your fiance can share, and not to mention make copies of things such as your wedding timeline/ time table or give shared access of your timeline document to vendors or your bridal entourage when you require.

The moodboard
I basically kept a folder of all things that caught my eye – things that reminded me on an enchanted garden / woodland forest. While the theme was straight forward on its own, I spent a hell lot of time mulling over the color scheme on whether to have it kept green, white and peach, or have it be more colorful and romantic. ie Green and Burgundyoriginal_forest-theme-wedding-invitation Custom-Color-Size-New-70-colors-Convertible-Dress-long-bridesmaid-dresses-Multicolor-wedding-dress-Prom-party

This was the inspiration for my bridemaids dresses which i settled for in lavender.Moss-Wedding-Decor-Ideas-signs-and-frames natural-materials-9-rustic-style-ideas-for-a-woodland-wedding

And the gowns : oh the gowns. I love zuhair murad gowns so much, as well as Galia Lahav but not their pricetags hahahha.zuhair-murad-spring-summer-2016-bridal-long-sleeves-plunging-neckline-lace-trumpet-wedding-dress-patricia-front-view

However madly in love with Zuhair Murad designs I was – I had to be realistic about my budget….you know la – cannot afford hahaha and my figure also meant that I had no boobs to reveal la to be honest. Zuhair-murad-detacheable-wedding-dress-FAll-2015-collection-1 Halia-Raffles-Hotel-Wedding-10 2016-trending-greenery-natural-lush-wedding-ideas 11-jewel-toned-autumn-woodland-wedding-shoot

As my dinner banquet wasn’t individually plated – I had less space to work with for the decorations….so I had to change plans somehow mostly by just leaving it to Regina my florist to decide for me.

On the RSVP and attendance
Have your wedding stationery designer or if you will -try your own hand out at designing an electronic save the date card which you can forward along closer to the date to remind your guests, or have it sent to them before the real invitation.

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On that day as well assign 1 or 2 members of the bridal party to help with directions for guests who cannot find their way. Have this person tag to you like a personal assistant thruout the wedding so that he/she can help filter your calls.

Have your wedding invite feature a map and useful directions on getting to the venue, as well as a helpline ie a number to call should they need help on getting there.

Singaporeans are a notorious late bunch so be prepared to start even if just 60% guests are there. It helps to remind your guests that this is a once in a lifetime event and that their punctuality is appreciated- afterall these are close/good friends and family and you can afford to be honest about how punctuality is treasured on your once in a lifetime event.

On the week of your wedding, send your guests an electronic reminder about your wedding [during which you should expect some drop-outs so don’t fret]* remember the tip for Part 1 which was to invite a couple more people than what you’ve catered for since some were going to drop out anyway. There are however some risks involved lol.

The budget
I found this to be a useful resource when it came to planning my budget or having an overall idea of the venues prices – https://singaporebrides.com/wedding_banquet_pricelist.php
One thing to note however is the prices are based on basic menu items and prices differ if you chose to opt for the more expensive menu/dishes.

Saving on ROM cost

  • yYu could either opt for your ROM to be done at ROM [cheap and fuss free]
  • Or you can look for a venue which will provide you a free room to have this done since it was a really quick thing- about 30mins.
  • We did this on the same day just before our wedding dinner in the Courtyard of Raffles hotel outside of The Halia at no extra charge. Saving us both time and cost from holding it on a separate date/venue.CHR_2325 CHR_2327 CHR_2366

About ROM and solemnization etc
It’s a rather straight forward process
Read about it on https://www.rom.gov.sg/reg_info/rom_marriage.asp
It cost just $42 for singaporeans/PRs and can be done online, You’ll need to apply at least 21 days ahead of your marriage date
Steps:

Step1 To file a notice of marriage you may do so at https://www.rom.gov.sg/
Step2: Go to the Registry of Marriages to Verify Documents and for Statutory Declaration (strictly by appointment only)
Step3: On the day of marriage, proceed to have marriage solemnized by a licensed solemnizer and in the presence of 2 witnesses

Documents Required
-NRICs (for SC/SPR) or Passports (for foreigners) of groom, bride and
2 witnesses above 21 years old
-Solemnizer Consent Form (for solemnization outside ROM) – such as ours.
-Credit card for online filing of notice; or NETs/Cashcard for filing of
notice at e- Kiosks in ROM
Looking for your photographer/videographer and vendors etc
On your wedding shoes
While i know how tempting it is to get something pretty yet uncomfy- pls pls only get a pair of shoes you think you can survive in for a whole day. I know many brides who will kick of their stilettos and go barefoot in fact, I recommend shoes from Melissa https://www.mdreams.com.sg/ you can definitely walk an entire day in it.
If you’re going for normal stilettos please consider a pair with hidden platforms as it helps to relieve the pain. Don’t forget to pack a pair of slippers or bedroom slippers and have a bridesmaid bring it around for you in case you need some moments of relief. Personally I had to walk from my hotel suite pass the courtyard of raffles to get to The Halia – during which i wore bedroom slippers, and only changed into heels before my march-in moment. This was a great idea from my bridesmaid <3CHR_1807 my melissa heels
Makeup
It’s important you have a makeup trial done to ensure you like the skills of your makeup artist and the looks she can create. While it’s tempting to sign up an entire package that often throws in the makeup trial for free- do consider paid makeup trials as well before committing as you don’t want to sign up for something and then regret that the MUA skills wasn’t what you expected.
The makeup artist will probably not be able to settle your make up + your entire entourage and mothers, [unless he/she has a team] – but you’ll want to be picky too on who their assistants are. I’ve attended weddings where the main MUA was really good but their assistants were ….terrible.
So apart from Sally and Malena, as well as Shirley which I’ve recommended in my first blogpost on my wedding. http://blog.myfatpocket.com/alethea/2017/08/27/planning-your-own-wedding-like-i-did-mine/
I will also recommend my makeup artist friends who have huge amounts of experience in both editorial and professional capacities. Meaning their work is good enough for magazines!
@junegoh_fx
@cccjmiko (Carmen Ong)
@muacher (Cheron)
@cherylmua
@vinvola (Vinna Er)
@fidelistoh
You don’t want your main bridal makeup artist taking on too much as you want her focus to be on perfecting your look.
Another thing to look out for is to ensure your makeup artist includes all things such as ampoules…false lashes and things like transportation in her quotation to avoid hidden costs or added cost that can ‘surprise’ you.
Tracking your payments
Keep all receipts, invoices and contracts etc consolidated in your drop box or googledrive and the likes for easy reference. Prepare all the balance payments before hand and hand them to a trusted member of your entourage to settle the balances for you with your vendors. You’ll be too busy on the day to do so and you don’t want vendors waiting etc.
On Beauty treatments for that glow
Book your hair appointments and Spa in advance but not too close to your wedding day either incase of facial induced breakouts. Go for something tried and tested too – don’t be too adventurous, at least not on your wedding week! Don’t go trying a new spa or new therapist during your wedding.
For quick fixes visit an aesthetics doctor for things such as a hydrafacial for that added glow, or a spectra peel laser or carbon laser for quick results.
For me I had acne on my back and 6 months prior to my wedding ,my 2 doctors started with multiple sessions of laser and chemical peels to help lighten my scars so that I could wear my gown with confidence on the wedding day. For that I’m forever indebted to Dr Chiam Chiak Teng and Dr Vanessa Phua – my mom loves Dr Phua too .
The Aesthetics Medical Center
Shaw Centre
1 Scotts Road #27-00, 228208
Dr Vanessa Phua
+65 6690 4690
501 Orchard Road #05-16 Wheelock Place, 238880
Yep see the acne that I have :(
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trunk acne
This was my back in May
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And the subsequent improvements
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You can also consider pampering your mother or mother in law with laser treatments too!
Or Spa sessions.
My hubby and I were sponsored massage sessions at Huang Ah Ma – the oriental spa chamber www.huangahma.com/ a cozy little tcm spa own by the Mary Chia group which helped to relax us a few days before our wedding.Know what the great thing is? They open till 11pm so thats great even if you’re working late you can drop by for a massage still! Huang Ah Ma – The Oriental Spa Chamber
is located at 50 Mosque Street, Singapore 059528 , +65 6536 1661
Now – the results . This was me on my wedding day – as the tulle was really translucent, I definitely was happy that the skin on my back looked clear on the day. CHR_1233 2016-10-08 10.47.40
Hair
I think it’s safe to color your hair some 2 weeks prior to your wedding, 1 week can get a little too rushed if you have lots left to do so do that earlier. For me I always choose to go to Chez Vous – an award winning salon where your hair is handled by Directors only. Each one with minimally 10 years of experience.
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Entertainment
I had a caricarture artist to draw portraits for my guests on the day, from my company lolololol  –  you can hire from me if you like at www.partyparlour.com.sg or call +65 9828-6006, I also had a jazz wedding band from highnotes to sing live music for my guests.
I had brought along some rainbow scratchart cards and some crayons to setup a little ‘kids’ corner in case the little ones need something fun to do. This is cheap and easily done. You can also just have some coloring pages ready or a balloon sculptor or magician to entertain the kids and adults.
As I had my solemnization on the same day, we didn’t have time for a couples game segment but you can consider these as it adds to the fun.CHR_2520 CHR_2660
 I had actually customized papers for the artist but my bridesmaid had forgotten about the papers lolooolol – yes these are among the things that can go wrong and will go wrong on the day.
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Checklist
Out of the many wedding planning list suited for singaporeans , I found singaporebrides has one of the more useful ones https://singaporebrides.com/articles/2016/03/free-wedding-checklist-spreadsheet/
So fun facts: Among the things that could go wrong and went wrong
Don’t worry I really don’t blame anyone hahaha here’s what happened just for sake of recounting the day and well letting other brides to be know that it’s normal for things not to go as planned.
This is perhaps a good enough reason to hire a wedding planner if you can afford it, I wished there were two of me sometimes. LOLOL
  • One of my bridesmaids woke up late and arrived at lunch missing the gatecrash , still I am glad she made it!
  • Another was a little ill the week of the wedding of which it is no fault of hers
  • And yet another left out the customized papers i printed for the caricarture to be done on – again it doesn’t matter.
  • My bridesmaid forgot about my ringbox during my solemnization ceremony lololol DSC_1326
  • Our groomsman face was stained by makeup during the gatecrash as the guys applied lipstain on his eyes thinking it was eyeshadow? LOL
  • We had a v low turnup for the tea ceremony or rather the rsvp for the tea ceremony because my family is chilled like that and his relatives that were coming from Malaysia couldn’t make it in time lol so we skipped it.
  • My makeup artist came a little later than expected during dinner *Gasp*
  • My mom got lost in the corridoor of Raffles Hotel and then turned to a groomsmen of ours to find her way out hahahah
  • My hubby insisted the flower boutonniere was not in the fridge – there goes my money. We found it in the fridge after the wedding -_- . It’s a juliet rose by the way …… so the funny thing was the next day I insisted he put in on his suit so I could take a photo . I loved the lush juliet rose, the seeded eucalyptus and the lovely orchid on it – again credits to florist Regina Mae for her wonderful work. DSC_1303
  • Another funny trivia: About 2 months before my wedding , I did a prewed video montage and was bitten all over by sandflies at changi beach – omg that was hell but i survived. It was itchy beyond words -_-
  • Oh yes I’ve been to a few weddings where by groom actually forgot to bring the bouquet so to avoid that I kept the bouquet with me hahahahhaha!! Anyway I was the one who paid for the florals ..MEH
  • We are not traditional and neither were are parents so we skipped the guo da li.
  • And frankly I’ve always been reluctant to get married – but my husband somehow convinced me . On my wedding day I was filled with so much mixed emotions – I think I discounted myself of some of the joy I could have had hahahha erm -_- hard to explain but at least I’m honest right? hahahahha
  • So hey – don’t swear the small stuff? Everyone chose to be there for us at our wedding on this special day and contributed in whatever way that can so – be appreciative! And have fun – don’t give yourself headaches like i did hahaha.

Chez Vous Hair Botox + Fillers Therapy

Hair botox is now a thing.

chezvous takashimaya Inspired by aesthetic beauty treatments, Chez Vous’ Hair Botox + Fillers Programme works like Botox and hyaluronic fillers for the skin, which effectively smoothen wrinkles and plump sunken facial contours. This new hair therapy fills up the “holes” in the hair cuticles  with long-lasting reparative hair supplements such as micronized amino lipids, natural jojoba and avocado oils…this almost sounds delicious lol, so coupled with keratin concentrates, together they work to strengthen hair and reduce breakage. Stubborn frizz is then smoothed away with silk protein and ceramide, and the hair is saturated with hyaluronic acids for intensive hydration.

Here’s a snapshot of the process which took about 2-3hours.

The 2 hours consisted of the following:

First my hair is cleansed throughly , after which its accessed and then a blend of thermal activated smooth control concentrate, as well as keratin and pro satin silk protein is applied to my hair to combat frizz, repair damage and promote shine.
Next hair boosters are applied to provide a hydrophobic coat that is locked into my hair using a flat iron to seal in the smoothness, radiance and moisturising oils.

Lastly an injection mask is applied to hydrate hair and keep it soft to touch and lastly a serum is applied to seal and protect from heat.

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This was my hair – on the morning of 8th feb, 11am lol, rather frizzy and unruly and kinda wavy.botox and hair fillers chez vous takashimaya

Frankly  – I didn’t realize how bad it was :( I totally needed this …. my hair looks huge hahaha almost like a lion’s mane -_-. And this was my hair after hair botox

Another lady spotting her hair right after her hair botox and fillers session  – what an amazing sheen and healthy hair she has!good hair day

In addition – Chez Vous has developed its own homecare line – Trilogy Bespoke Boosters (BB), designed to be a complete customizable 30-day hair recovery programme, using miniaturized in-salon treatment grade ingredients, focusing on inner care. 1 Booster application is equivalent to 5 ordinary hair mask usage. [Frankly i think 5 hair masks doesn’t do it justice! it’s equivalent to a salon grade hair treatment i would say!lol]  Each booster is hand-poured and tailored according to individual guest’s hair needs:chez vous hair booster

  • Soothe & Smooth: for unmanageable, unruly and frizzy hair
  • Enrich & Glow: for color-treated hair
  • Repair & Rescue: for overly processed and damaged hair
  • Feed & Fit: for weak, brittle and stressed hair

You’ll be given a set of three , depending on what your needs are and I can say – after having used it that this beats any hair mask there is on the market. It’s so nourishing that I wished i could use it everyday which obviously will place a dent in my wallet heh.

The hair boosters are to be used once every 10 days, or once every 5 days. I definitely recommend using once every 5 days, like i said if my wallet could handle it i’ll be using it daily hahaha.

Here’s my hair and how it looks 46 days post treatment. That’s almost 7 weeks after my hair botox is done, still not “puffy’ and also significantly neater than how my hair was before the hair botox was done,

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Curious to know how it is done? here’s a part of the whole process, i found it most interesting that an airbrush was used to apply miniaturized goodness to my hair! This inspires me to whip our my own airbrush to do so heh.

Now – on most days – especially while i am in singapore, i just let my hair dry naturally without the need to blow it dry. It doesn’t tangle and i just comb thru my hair with my fingers mostly. I’m happy that the treatment has lasted 7 weeks so far and I look forward to seeing if it lives up to the 90day mark! :)

I’ve also became my diligent in masking my hair daily, here’s to #Betterhairdays

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The treatment on its own without the aftercare cost between $375 to $505 however Chez Vous has a great programme that includes:

  • 1 Hair Botox + FIllers Treatment
  • 1 Express Revitalizing Supreme treatment
  • 1 Goldwell Control Shampoo,
  • 1 Goldwell Control or Reconstruct Treatment,
  • 1 Goldwell Control Smoothing Fluid and
  • 1 Chez Vous Trilogy Bespoke Boosters Set [or 2 sets if you have really long hair]

Get the Express Revitalizing Supreme done within 1 month of Hair Botox + Fillers treatment to lengthen the lifespan of your hair botox. The entire programme is priced is at $599 and up.

Note: Want to colour your hair – well do it before the Hair Botox + Fillers session for optimal results so the treatment doesn’t ‘leak’ from your hair if you were to dye it.

As many of you might know, Chez Vous has been my go to Salon for over a year and I strongly recommend you to try them out,

P.s Enjoy 25% off when you make a reservation through this link from now to 31st May 2017,with code #RefByAlethea05 when you book your appointment.

Here’s to better hair days

http://www.chezvous-trial-special.com

391 Orchard Road
#05-05 Ngee Ann City Podium
(Takashimaya)
Singapore 238872

Tel: 6732 9388

Email: emailus@chezvoushair.com

Official Website: chezvoushair.com

Opening Hours:

Mon – Fri: 1100 – 2030

Sat: 1030 – 1800

Sun: 1100 – 1800

 

The transformation for ChezVous 20th Anniversary lookbook – #ChezVoushair

When veteran salon ChezVous knocked. I answered.cv1blr   cv16blr

Here’s why – apart from the copious amounts of drinks this salon serves up that makes it perfect for a hensnight or just because I drink like there’s no tomorrow. Hello freeflow iced lemon tea :)

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Chez Vous is the real beauty expert, it’s the salon’s 20th anniversary this year and it really isn’t hard to see why they have reasons to celebrate.

As an OHDA (Only Hair Directors Allowed) salon,you can be sure you’re in the right hands. If Malcolm Gladwell’s theory of 10000 hours rings true, ChezVous staff definitely surpasses this expert prerequisite immediately. I mean each hair director has a minimum of 12years experience under their belt. And for their founder Riz, he’s got 27years or more!

Even Harper’s Bazaar holds Chez Vous in high regards.

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Did you know Chez Vous has done what no one else did nor dares to do!

The salon has a We’ll Fix It – The Chez Vous Expertligent Fix You Programme

All those years of constantly reinventing itself, keeping ahead of trends and being at the
forefront of technique and technology. Team Chez Vous is committed to giving the customer the best service and experience possible.

Chez Vous is kicking off a series of daring and innovative programmes for their customers such as the “We’ll Fix It” initiative.

Under this initiative, Chez Vous’ team of directors-only hair professionals will receive any customers who have had unsatisfactory treatments or cuts at other salons and redress any damage done. Armed with a team of experts in various disciplines,

Chez Vous is more than well equipped to fix and repair sub-optimal results of hair services such as colouring, cutting, straightening, perming, bleaching etc. If someone mistreated your hair or didn’t deliver and it is causing you distress – honestly go to them to fix it.

Under Chez Vous Expertligent Fix You Programme which is subjected to expert’s availability and assessment and goes strictly via reservation thru email at : emailus@chezvoushair.com there’s a chance you can save your tresses.

Chez Vous is also one of the very few hair salons that has hairdressers at the director
statuses who specialise in treating and cutting Caucasian hair, a feat that not many other hair salons can claim to have accomplished.

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We’ll Fix It is an ongoing initiative, and free of charge if there is a lapse of less than one week between the treatment in question and the customer’s visit to Chez Vous;
This is limited to 1 customer a day and only from Sundays to Thursdays.

A just as a testimony here’s the magic they created for me while I sat in anticipation inside their comfortable salon.

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If anything Chev Vous is like the Fairgod mother that bestows upon you beautiful hair.

First up was a consultation where Jamie my colorist – accessed my preferences, down to my occupation and what I want my hair to be.

After which based on the look created for me minor adjustments were made – I loved it right from the start. <3 #Loveatfirstsight

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Jamie and her assistant were placed in charge of my tresses and we began by trimming off part of my bangs. I think i instantly looked younger. Yay2015-06-25 11.53.47

Spot the mannequin in the background? Well that’s because Chev Vous supports upcoming and local designers – right now on display are some exquisite hat creations by ESKPADE. I think the team at Chev Vous are really trailblazers – they walk to talk when it comes to fashion and even saving of one’s mane.

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Now – no expense was spared . I was given a pretreatment before even coming in for my hair coloring, also multiple tubes of Innerlogic was applied to my hair to protect it.

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My hair required 3 rounds of beaching. Anyone wants to go at guessing how many hours this took :) The time was well worth it .

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Well I had foresight – hence the laptop. See the wonderful thing at Chez Vous is that they have everything already thought out for you! Such as a rectangular lap cushion to prop your laptop up.

I mean – that’s the amount of attention and detail you get as a client.

A couple of hours later I was blonde.
One off the bucket list lol. #blondeambitions.

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I got to play lady gaga for a few moments. With a blonde ribbon on my head

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Here’s the blue dye i so loved. I was given 2 shades of blue for my highlights and fifty shades of grey for my base.

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And then – Magic

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And if you’re wondering how to take care of such colors here’s 4 useful tips.

HAIR MASQUE

Before bleaching your hair, apply hair masque daily for a few days straight.

Prep by purchasing shampoo and conditioner for colored hair

I swear by Aveda color conserve but of course – Keratase is popular too.
I got to know a brand called RPR recently which carries a “Brighten my blonde” range of shampoo and conditioner.This blonde hair shampoo assists in removing the unwanted brassiness and yellow tones that can accompany lighter shades and leaves your hair full of texture and life

Turn Down the Water Temperature When Shampooing Color-Treated Hair

When you shampoo, stick to lukewarm or cooler water temperatures. Super-hot water leeches dye out of hair faster and strips the color because it opens the surface of the hair strand, which causes the dye molecules to escape.
Lastly remember to blow dry your hair – while heat is not the bestfriend of color treated hair. Creative colors tend to run hence blow dry always before you get dressed or risk getting it on your clothes.
Special thanks to Chez Vous team – Riz, Eugene, Jamie for giving me the best hair colors I had in years. It was my honour.

Chez Vous Salon is located at:
391 orchard road #05-05
ngee ann city podium singapore 238872
Instagram @chezvoushair
https://instagram.com/chezvoushair/